Smiles, Giggles and Night Terrors

Andrew really came out of his shell yesterday when he was with "us". He talked and played, smiled and giggled but what we have noticed is that if any Chinese person (which is usually a woman) comes up and speaks to him, that he will not answer back and either looks at them or looks down. It breaks my heart. The other boy that is in our group will talk to any one. I think Andrew has begun to make his separation. He also seemed to be quite concerned if I left the room or got up to go do something. While he was ok with Daddy or Sissy, he was clearly not happy and his little eyes would fill up with tears. We had several appointments to complete yesterday and it was exhausting and hot and if I even got up out of my chair to stretch my legs or walk around, he would get out of his chair and follow me. Of course I would grab that little hand, tell him that I love him and we would walk together. I'm thankful that he is starting to trust me.

After every meal, Andrew will take his napkin and open it to the full square. If he can separate it into two pieces, he pulls it apart. He then begins to fold it into a square until it becomes quite small. He is very, very patient with this process. If the ends don't line up perfectly, he unfolds it and repeats this process. He also does this with his clothes when we change him. After his clothes are off he takes each item and folds them to his liking and then brings them to the top of his bed. I'm seeing a pattern here. I believe the class level he was in was very precise and things were done in order. Very advanced and very strict. He also attempts to draw Chinese Characters which totally blew us away. I think we have a very smart little boy here who needs lots of love and nurturing. Because the last two nights have shown me a different picture.

I believe my sweet boy is suffering and will continue to suffer from night terrors. This is a new area of trauma for me since I did not experience this at all with Sophia. The first night wasn't too bad. It happened once. And tonight.....while everyone here is sleeping, I am awake due to Andrew's fit-full rolling all over the bed for the last two hours, crying and repeating phrases I will ask about in the morning. Also tonight at the mere thought of having to go to bed, he began to cry. It was so sad. I'm sure I will post more about this once I get home and after I have spoken to my Doctor about this, but while I am here for yet another two weeks, if anyone has suggestions, or has been through this, please either leave a comment or if you would be willing to take the time to email me, I would be grateful. I knew that this journey would be far more intense then with Sophia. I have prepared myself for that and for the long road we may have once we are home. But do believe that the sweet, precise, fun loving little boy that I am seeing will blossom once he realizes that he is safe, secure and loved forever by his Mommy and the rest of his family. I got to see Daniel again tonight over the Skype and he smiled so big when he saw Andrew. We put the head phones on both boys and Daniel said "Hi baby Andrew" and Andrew just turned and smiled at me. It brought me to tears. Sophia was still sleeping but I did see her and talk to her the time before. ~sigh~ I just need to get my babies all together....once and for all. ;)